As per statistics about 80% of the new mothers suffer with Post Partum Depression (PPD) also known as postnatal depression. What makes is worse is the fact that a woman who is already battling with the added responsibility, messed up hormones and sleep patterns is trapped in a situation where she is emotionally fragile and gets triggered by pettiest of things. PPD can have dire and long lasting effects in the long run if not taken care of in time. We have a list of things to avoid that can help a Post Partum Depression patient deal with it in a better way and can help speed up her recovery process.
Read the first hand narrative of a PPD surviver.
Avoid People Who Are Not Supportive
We live in a culture where family systems are closely knitted. Most new mothers either live in large joint family systems or are at least visited by dozens of family members and close friends within few days of giving birth. Sadly, most people in our culture have normalized “mother shaming” and giving uncalled for advices. A Post Partum Depression sufferer should avoid all such people who are not supportive or challenging an already fragile mental stability.
Rest, rest and more rest – it cannot be emphasized enough. Child birth is all about physical fatigue and PPD aggravates it. The best favor that you can do yourself is to give your body as much rest as possible.
Cooking thrice a day for the family, preparing a three course meal for dinner and ironing a pile of laundry can wait. Give your body as much rest as possible.
Avoid Scary Movies, Shows or Books
Women with PPD are extremely vulnerable to any kind of negativity. You may see any kind of mishap or a negative idea and you might think it’s connected to you. Thoughts get stuck in a pit of negative voices and it becomes extremely difficult to get out of them.
Therefore keep yourself surrounded with as much positivity as possible.
Avoid Too Much Internet
Not everything that you read up on the internet is factually correct and not all bloggers are medical experts or professional. However, as a new mom, whatever information you read up will easily hit you and get to your mind regardless of its authenticity. There is absolutely no need to Google every tiny bit of your baby’s activity as it will only exhaust you and will mess up your mind. There was an entire generation that was raised without Dr. Google and they turned out fine.
Avoid Negative Thoughts
When you are all by yourself, battling with depression and trying to bond with your baby like an oversensitive mommy, there are episodes when some buried voices out of nowhere echo in your ear and scream in your mind and demand your attention. They could be all the negative ideas related to your relationships, your family, your friends, work, finances, social life and what not. These thoughts trigger a negative energy in you that is meant to pull you down. Once you give them attention, there is no coming out of it. Do not pay attention to these thoughts and find ways to distract yourself
Avoid Self Diagnosis
A new mother can go through a number of issues soon after child birth. This is very normal given the hormonal mess up caused in your system during the long pregnancy and birthing process. If you feel you are not physically fit and you need medical intervention, please see a doctor and avoid diagnosing yourself. Also avoid relying on any totkas or home remedies. Experimenting with your body is the last thing you can afford at this stage.
Contrary to popular opinion, it is absolutely okay to visit a psychologist. It is a myth that only “psychotic” people visit psychiatrists and psychologists. If you feel you have symptoms of Post Partum Depression, immediately see a psychologist or talk to your Ob-gyn about it. A medical professional can help you in a better way to overcome your illness.